Dating spouse while separated
It was October; he promised that we, and our two sons, would still spend that Christmas together as a family. She has written for the New York Times, Newsweek, ZINK, and Modern Drummer, among others. He did say he wants me to read some of what he has written because he can’t process and articulate correctly in person. He did say he feels he is accomplishing something with his therapy to uncover his reasons for lying. I shared some of my little personal growth moments from the last week.
He didn’t try to hold my hand, hug me, or even really get close at all.
After all, there's a good chance that you get involved with that person and they drop that, "I'm getting back with my ex" bomb on you. And let's face it, there's a great risk in being the first new relationship for the soon-to-be divorcee.
Do you really want to be the rebound or the buffer between the old life and the new one?
Three years ago, when I was 56, I suggested to my husband that he move out of our house in New Jersey. As he was settling into his new apartment in Manhattan, he called. We would stay separated for a year and, somehow, together, figure out this whole thing.
Sometimes, emerging from a divorce, it takes a while for things to add up. We pledged that we would always be friends, and our family would survive. After a few minutes, as we were about to hang up, he told me that he was "seeing someone.""Seeing someone." Two words that splintered my head into speechlessness, followed by a dizzying internal stream of, What about "Our family would survive"?